When you hear the word surrogacy, what do you think of?
In very recent years, a number of celebrities have had children with a surrogate. This past year, Gabrielle Union and Dwayne Wade welcomed a beautiful baby girl via surrogate. Then you have the ever popular Kim Kardashian and Kanye West who have also used a surrogate multiple times. But what about Nicole Kidman, Tyra Banks, Elizabeth Banks, Jimmy Fallon and Lucy Liu to name a few more.
Did you know that surrogacy dates back to Bible times? In the Book of Genesis, Abraham and Sarah could not bare child. While they did not have fertility doctors, they did have surrogacy. But the most raw form of surrogacy, which is the act of physically making a baby with someone. That's what Abraham and Hagar did. Hagar had a child for Sarah and Abraham to raise as their own.
Then in 1884 the first artificially inseminated woman had a child; albeit in an unethical manner. Fast forward to 1975 and the first ethically completed surrogate baby was born.
Now here we are in the 21st century where science is helping those who were meant to have babies, have them! And that is a wonderful thing!
Please don't try to come with an argument of, "If God wanted you to have a baby, you'd have a baby." Wouldn't that same argument be used with Abraham and his wife Sarah who could not have children? But yet, they found a way for Sarah to become a mother!
We live in amazing times where we have the best doctors who can help families who have struggled for years with infertility bring a child into their home. How can we question that? These babies born via surrogate could be the next president, a heart surgeon, your child's best and favorite teacher, etc.
In my husband and I doing surrogacy, we are having a child, that is not physically related to us in any way, for a family that has longed for a child for years! We get to make them parents. We get to make their parents grandparents. We get to make their siblings aunts and uncles. But also, Dustin and I get to extend our friends that have become family! They say it takes a village to raise a child, but in this case, it takes a village to have a child.
Mark is our legacy.
But so is this!
About six years ago, I signed up to donate my eggs. What was the decision based off of? Money. Pure and simple. The way egg donation works is you get approved with an egg donation company and then post your profile. Your profile consists of who you are and your entire history - medical, family, likes, etc. When someone picks your profile, you never know who they are. They just pick you. You go through medical clearance and egg retrieval. Then it's done.
We actually had two hits on my profile over the past several years. And then a third time last March. After much discussion, Dustin and I decided that we have had so many friends and family members struggle to have kids that we wanted to help. A couple had selected us for egg donation. Next up was medical clearance. Things came to a screeching halt when I found out that my egg count was too low for egg donation. I was devastated for the parents that had selected me.
This just brought on more discussion with Dustin. It was during many conversations with my husband that we decided if we couldn't do egg donation, we wanted to do surrogacy. I absolutely loved being pregnant, and this is something that I could do for another family.
We went back to our egg donation center - which was also a surrogacy center - and told them of our decision. Thankfully we didn't have to start at square one since we already had some doctors appointments done, but we still had a loooooooooooway to go. In June 2018 we were sent over a dozen profiles for Intended Parents (IPs). Surrogacy is different from egg donation in that the surrogate picks a profile first. If those IPs pick us back, then we have an awkward first date Skype call.
But guess what...our call was not awkward. Everything about this felt just right! And, you wanna know the best and coolest part? The couple that selected me for egg donation earlier in the year was the SAME couple that WE selected for surrogacy!
Now here we are! Pregnant with another couple's baby, and we couldn't be more happy and more blessed to be able to do this!
Do you know anyone personally that has been a surrogate or used a surrogate? I'm sure you might know of some famous people that have done surrogacy!